01 CIVIL PROCEDURE (Dean RIANO 13 April 2007) audio Bar lecture

01 CIVIL PROCEDURE (Dean RIANO 13 April 2007)

The Flirting Game

- The guy would check out the girl, but will not do anything yet, well maybe a little glances and compliments here and there, but that's it.

- The girl either appreciates the "gentleness" of the guy, or gets caught by the compliment of the guy (e.g. you're beautiful, I like your style, I think you're gorgeous, etc).

- The girl responds by giving the guy extra attention.

- The guy gets the hint or the "go signal".

- The guy will then start to "fish" for the girl. He will send sweet messages, say sweet nothings, act like a protective lover. In other words, he will actually SPEND TIME (and/or money) with you.

- The girl will start to appreciate this. In time, she will be expecting such gestures ON A REGULAR BASIS.

- The guy will IMMEDIATELY STOP/QUIT his sweet actions. (This is to ascertain whether or not the girl has already fallen for him).

- The girl will then start to demand attention from the guy, since she got used to it. The guy has already become "a part of her life".

- The guy, upon knowing this, shows off a SMUG FACE. (He's the man!)

- From here, the path shall separate (if the guy is serious, he will pursue relationship with the girl, but if he just wants to prove something to himself or to someone else, he shall leave proudly).

THEREFORE, girls, upon knowing this, may we control our feelings, keeping guys off from affecting our emotions, unless we are pretty sure they are worth the risk. ;)

Sources: Several Psychology concepts (The Definitive Book of Body Language), and my beloved guy friends and relatives

Reliance...

There is a fine line between spoon-feeding people and actually helping them.
You must always stand on your ground, not to be used excessively...
for it may lead to total dependence, instead of skills development.

-Yours truly

False Anticipation

"There is no excuse, my friend
for breaking my heart...
breaking my heart again...."

- Breaking My Heart by Michael Learns to Rock

Blind Compliance

"Acceptance without proof is the fundamental characteristic of Western religion, rejection without proof is the fundamental characteristic of Western science."

- Gary Zukav

Wise is Humble

"Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it."

- Benjamin Franklin

Risking...

Take my love
I'll never ask for too much
Just all that you are
and everything that you do...

I can't run from myself,
there's nowhere to hide...

Desire...

Her lips, her lips
I can kiss them all if she'd let me...

If perfect's what you're searching for,
then just stay the same...

- Just the Way You Are - Bruno Mars

Falling...

"I'm falling even more in love with you
Letting go of all I've held on to

I'm standing here until you make me move
I'm hanging by a moment here with you"

Hanging by a Moment - Lifehouse

Looking Back...

I'm missing you... However, it is not the same. Thanks for being there for me though.

Letting Go...

"Saying goodbye is never an easy thing
But you never said you'd stay forever..."

Love Will Lead You Back - Taylor Dayne

Longing...

"...What I'd give to run my fingers through your hair
To touch your lips, to hold you near..."

Always - Bon Jovi

Basic Signs of Lying

- face-touching

- fidgeting

- poor eye contact

- slight to notable change in tone of voice

- change of mood

- quick diversion of conversation topic

- lip-biting

For those who are aware of psychology...

- the opposite of everything mentioned above - just with a notable increase in attempt to sound convincing.

Source: Concepts learned in Psychology

Love Forgives

"Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends."

Proverbs 17:9

Value of a Friend

"A man of many companions may come to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."

Proverbs 18:24

Don't Rush...

We live and we learn
To take one step at a time...

The only way to get there
Is one step at a time...

Patience and Focus

“Let nothing disturb thee; Let nothing dismay thee; All thing pass; God never changes. Patience attains All that it strives for. He who has God Finds he lacks nothing:God alone suffices.”

- St. Teresa of Avila

Security in Wisdom

"... For wisdom is protection just as money is protection, But the advantage of knowledge is that wisdom preserves the lives of its possessors."

-Ecclesiastes 7:12

To Err is Human

"It is unwise to be too sure of one's own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err." Mohandas K. Gandhi

Knowledge and Wisdom

Knowledge is regarded as a permanent and powerful weapon in our society. In view of deeper thought concepts such as wisdom and understanding, to know things plainly is not enough to change your life, and influence others for the better.